Most Common Coaching Misconceptions

If the answers were all outside of you…you could have just followed someone else’s plan. That is not what we are planning to do with our time today, which is why I’m breaking the most common coaching misconceptions.

But…believing that someone else knows you and your life better than you do is how you will lose agency over your life and that’s not what I’m here to encourage.

In general, I don’t advise on the WHAT to do and HOW to do it.  And that’s what I want to be sure to clarify with you.  Your brain is going to tell you that the WHAT and HOW are exactly what you need to pay for.  They’re what your brain wants.  Right now you think the WHAT and HOW will create your success.  But that’s a thought error.  It’s just not true.

Here’s an example…I used to train for triathlons and I would pay a trainer to create a plan for the 12 weeks leading up to the race.  (Honestly, sometimes I just looked that up online.)  Google really is your best friend for most things in the WHAT and HOW category these days.  It was never the information that I struggled with. 

What I had a hard time with was finding the energy or motivation to compel me to act on what I knew I needed to do in order to create the result of being ready to race on the race date.  Waking up at 4:45am to get my long run in before work was a challenge.  It was tiring and I had other plans for my Saturday’s.  I didn’t want to swim in a cold pool.  There was work to do so I could pay the bills.  Some days I wasn’t sure I cared.  Maybe it didn’t matter.  The workout wouldn’t really move the needle anyway.  It was just this one time.

Follow the plan and taking action

In other words–following the plan, taking the action, doing the WORK was where I got stopped.  And it was never really the confusion about what to do that stopped me.  Look at an example in your online business.  Is it really that you don’t know WHAT to do or HOW to do it — or is that what your brain is offering you so that you can avoid feeling negative emotions like embarrassment, vulnerability, or inadequacy?

The TYPE of coaching you choose is critical.  If you are an online entrepreneur who wants to create more value for yourself and your clients, you don’t need me to hold you accountable.  You need to be able to cultivate a mindset that allows you to be in integrity and trust with yourself while taking risks, exerting effort and finding ways to stay in action even when things don’t go as planned.  You can learn to hold yourself accountable in a way that facilitates long term success.

It’s not WHAT and HOW you need from me.  It’s understanding what your own brain offers when:

Your Facebook ad account gets shut down and you are experiencing post-shutdown-distress.  

A webinar you ran didn’t convert clients at the rate you had hoped it would.

You received negative feedback from a client.

A glitch in technology set your timeline back longer than expected.

You don’t need an accountability coach with a checklist of things for you to do.  You need a life coach with a causal approach.

If you want to create something different in YOUR life you need to hire a life coach who can help you see why you have continued to NOT do the things you say you want to do.  And THEN…see exactly how YOU can create non-linear change in your life.  This is how you engage in GROWTH.  And THIS is what I do with my clients.

Coaching isn’t what you think it is.  It’s not:

-checklists and forcing agendas

-tough love

-gut wrenching, hard core, tow the line mentality

-a coach telling you “what to do”

Doing what you’ve always done will create what you already have. When you’re ready to reach your full potential, you’ll utilize coaching to see your own mind in a way that you’ve never accessed it before.

How to create real change in life

If you want to create real change in your life–you’ll hire a coach who helps you see your own mind with compassion.  You’ll allow vulnerability to surface.  You’ll identify the distance between  who you currently are and your future self and all the obstacles you believe might stop you from getting “there”.

When you are finally ready to stop the “one size fits all” game and be totally at home in your own skin…you’ll find the coach that is perfect for you.  And the results you’ll create are going to astonish you.